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“( When you become a confident man focused on himself and who is living his life and pursuing his goals independently of what the people in the grandstands think, you will have no interest in social climbing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And when you will become a compassionate man, you will not want to push people down but you will want to help the people around get better and move up.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s the man you have to want to become)”<\/p>\n\n\n\n I cannot ignore a such topic like this <\/p>\n\n\n\n I define social climbing as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The act of raising one\u2019s own social status by either inflating one\u2019s own virtues and qualities or, more often, by depressing other people\u2019s social statuses and looking better as a consequence<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n There are different ways of engaging in social climbing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are some of the most typical ones, with examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The direct demeaning way includes statements such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n They sound more like simple slanderous comment, but the hidden message is alwys \u201cI am better\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They are all saying \u201cI could do it (better)\u201d, \u201cI know better\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is how \u201cSocial Climbing In Absentia\u201d usually develops.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And it\u2019s often through telling a favorable story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The story can then either show the social climber getting mad recognition he doesn\u2019t even care about or, worse, it will show the social climber belittling others and getting away with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The social climber is trying to position himself as the \u201ccool asshole\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Below is an example of using a story to belittle someone else:<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are a few situations in which social climbing is OK, or even helpful to your interaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The last one, the \u201cno harm bragging\u201d is cute and could even make you endearing to some people and in some situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s ok with friends and for \u201clocker room talks\u201d. Being yourself is also part of building solid relationships and people close to you will appreciate you for being genuine (read: Daring Greatly).<\/p>\n\n\n\n There\u2019s also another exception when demeaning others is OK, and it\u2019s during the early stages of a romance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In those cases, it\u2019s OK because it\u2019s more flirting than demeaning and you are going for two possible frames there:<\/p>\n\n\n\n All the other situations, social climbing must be eradicated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now on the other side of the equation: how do you deal with a social climber?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are a few great tips:<\/p>\n\n\n\n If they do it not in front of you like in this case, ignore them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When they engage in social climbing the really socially smart people see that. When you recognize their behavior and address it you also dignify their action with your attention. You bring them to your own level. When people are using you for their social climbing effort, they are actively undermining you, and you should intervene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever they say against you, look at them like they said the most stupid thing in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Social Climber<\/strong>: (looking at someone else in the group, but referring to you) He doesn\u2019t know any better The last one is my favorite:<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is a technique we already spoke about in the Alpha Male Handshake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It consists of you eloquently and openly explaining to everyone what they are up to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Basically, you summarizes this article explaining what they\u2019re doing it (pushing people down), why they\u2019re doing it (to gain social status) and why it\u2019s nasty (high quality people pull people up<\/em>, not down).<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you execute it well, you will shame the social climber while at the same time shooting your own value through the roof.<\/p>\n\n\n\n While most guides, books and websites recommend you confont them, I don\u2019t actually like this option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This section will talk about how to eliminate all social climbing tendencies within yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, don\u2019t worry, we all have social climbing tendencies. John Maxwell says you should sign your work at the end of each day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Similarly, a good rule for yourself would be: only say what you would say personally to people\u2019s face. Even better, eventually, you want to become a genuine person who feels no need to push people down as much as you have no need to self-aggrandize yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you become a confident man focused on himself and who is living his life and pursuing his goals independently of what the people in the grandstands think, you will have no interest in social climbing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And when you will become a compassionate man, you will not want to push people down but you will want to help the people around get better and move up.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s the man you have to want to become<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Comment “( When you become a confident man focused on himself and who is living his […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-610","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/610","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=610"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/610\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":619,"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/610\/revisions\/619"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=610"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=610"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.whatistandfor.co\/fightingcorruptionandworkriot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=610"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Social Climbing Examples<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
#1. Direct Attack Social Climb<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#2. Denying Skills Social Climb<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
#3. Cool A*shole Social Climb<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Social Climbing: The Exceptions<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
As long as you don\u2019t overdo it, when you really feel proud and happy about something, you shouldn\u2019t refrain from expressing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHow to Deal With a Social Cliber<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
1. Ignore Them<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Basically, social climbers are taking away their own value: let them do that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why bother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n2. Stop Them In Their Track<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
You<\/strong>: Mate\u2026 Why are you saying that. The way you speak you make me sound like I am an idiot and I am not cool with that.
Why are you doing that?
Social Climber<\/strong>: ? What do you mean, I just meant\u2026
You<\/strong>: No man, you said I don\u2019t know any better. I don\u2019t know why you feel like you need to treat people that way. Maybe it\u2019s some inferiority complex or something, but whatever it is, if you cannot talk to me politely, please don\u2019t talk to me at all.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n3. Explain Their Game<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
4. Confront Them<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
How to Stop Being A Social Climber<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
And before we address them within others, we must remove it from our system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And only comment if you were willing to write that comment down with your own signature on it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n